“Things I wish I knew before getting married” is not a sad tale dissing marriage nor is it a lonely man’s narration of marriage relationships.
Gary Chapman doesn’t seek to discredit marriages; rather, from personal experience as a married man and a relationship counselor, his words seek to create a consciousness in the readers.
Isn’t it common for couples in a love relationship to shun every serious and determining talk? “We’re in love and that’s all that matters.” Only that it isn’t.
Talking things through is not a ‘love crusher’. You’re only seeking to understand the one you love, better.
Who they are, is a determiner for what they’ll do/be. Don’t you want to know all of that?
Their family upbringing plays a formative role. Are you going to sweep that under the carpet?
Conflict resolution: are you going to throw tantrums, break all the plates in the house and then go lodge in a hotel because you don’t agree on the same thing?
You’re going to make money, what’s the financial plan?
And of course, do your religious beliefs and values agree?
“Won’t all of these serious talks rob the fun and love out of the courtship?” you fear.
Well, I propose an idea: do it in-between trips to the ice cream parlors and nature parks— or wherever works for you!
The in-love phase promises to be the best time for that. At least, so the experts say.
If you’re in a relationship, married or not, I suggest you have a look at this book.
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READ UP!! **WINK**